Nirmalya Saha, Psychosocial and motivational blogger. Wisdom coach.
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It’s a trick of full or semi hypnotic influence. You can make others do as per your choice by some psychological tricks. It’s not confirmed that how long it’ll sustain on that person to perform your wishes. Still you can do a lot. Be careful about misuses. That can be a boomerang.
I can recommend you five tricks to direct other’s brain which you can call “brainwash”.
Use a “decoy” option to make your proposition look like a better choice. It’s a typical visual impact which psychologically drive other’s mind as your choice. It’s an old method of psychology but with good result. Bottom line concept is “ If you want to convince, confuse first. You’re done by 50%.” Say, you’ve to roll out a trade scheme on certain customers. Make three options. A) Soft copy 1K. B) Print 1.5K. C) Soft copy +Print 1.5K. You’ll find most of the customers will go for option C. They find it as a best deal. If you had put only two options, most numbers would have gone with option A. Your target is bigger collection. You provide option C. Customers get confused between B and C and eventually focus on C. So, you’re done.
Confuse people to get them to agree to your requests. It’s typically called DTR technique. Disrupt then reframe. In a social study, experimenters found that they made twice as much money while going door-to-door selling cards for charity with the DTR method. Instead of telling people they were selling eight cards for $3, they phrased it as 300 pennies for eight cards, “which is a bargain”. Researchers say the routine thought process is disrupted by DTR techniques, so people will most likely just accept the idea that they’re getting a good deal while they’re distracted trying to figure out how many dollars 300 pennies comes out to. Similar schemes are seen throughout market as “BONANZA” or “DEEWALI DHAMAKA”. Small deals in a bundle becomes a big deal for consumers.
Preface what you really want with something outlandish. If you start out by asking for something completely outrageous, chances are an individual will agree to your second, more-reasonable request. For example, if you ask someone for a 10k donation to sponsor a charity event, it’s likely they’ll say no. But if you follow up asking for a simple donation (the amount you actually wanted in the first place) you’re much more likely to get it than if you’d started out asking for the 1k or less than that.
Use nouns instead of verbs. A study revealed that people need to feel like they belong. For this reason, it’s more effective to pose questions using the individual as a noun instead of using verbs. In the study, people were asked the same question in two different ways: “How important is it to you to vote in tomorrow’s election?” and “How important is it to you to be a voter in tomorrow’s election?” Results showed that individuals who were addressed as “voters” were more likely to cast their ballots the following day. People generally relate themselves with such activities if they’re reinforced by using nouns instead of verbs.
Copy people’s body language and facial expression. If you’re in a job interview or trying to chat up a pretty girl at the bar, subtly mimicking the subject’s mannerisms will probably make them like you more. Pay attention to the way someone sits or speaks, and try to follow suit. Surprisingly, we start to like if someone does this with us. Unconsciously though, we take interest in that identity. Scientifically it’s called “Chameleon effect”. And it’s a proven brainwash theory.
Now, if you want your wife of partner to be washed likewise, I doubt how far you can succeed. Because of emotional bond and dependence it may disturb your relation, in worse situation may aggravate. Be cautious.